Toxic Besties: Breaking Free From The B.S.

When your best friends don't want you to be your best:

Even if they happen to be your so-called "best friends," life is too short to spend it with toxic people. Today we will explore the journey of breaking up with those friends who refuse to support your positive changes. Brace yourself for a no-holds-barred exploration of the pain, liberation, and personal growth that come with cutting ties with your toxic besties.

1. Friends vs. Frenemies:

In a world where we're constantly told that friendships should last forever, it's time to call out the frenemies in our lives. True friends should uplift and encourage us to be the best versions of ourselves. However, when those friendships turn sour, it's crucial to recognize the toxic influence they have on our growth. It's time to say goodbye to these frenemies and prioritize our own well-being. This is a serious quality vs. quantity situation. If you are in need of warm bodies to feel secure, then you certainly do not care about quality or honor your energetic space.

2. The Betrayal of Stagnation:

When we embark on a journey of positive change, we expect our friends to have our backs, cheering us on every step of the way. But what happens when they become stagnant, refusing to evolve alongside us? It's a betrayal that cuts deep, leaving us feeling abandoned and unsupported. Breaking up with friends who hinder our progress is an act of self-preservation, reclaiming our right to grow and thrive. This does not mean that you need to dramatize the process by starting an argument or even cutting off ties completely. The goal here is to eliminate sabotage and create space for new and positive change.

3. Unapologetic Self-Care:

Breaking up with toxic friends is an act of unapologetic self-care. We owe it to ourselves to surround ourselves with people who genuinely care about our well-being and support our positive changes. It's time to shed the guilt and take control of our lives, cutting ties with those who drain our energy and hold us back. Stop confusing selfishness with self-preservation! Read that again.

4. Embracing the Void:

When we sever ties with toxic friends, we may initially feel a void in our lives. But don't let the brief emptiness mislead you. This void is a space waiting to be filled with new and healthier relationships. It's an opportunity to build connections that align with our values and aspirations, giving us the support we need to flourish. The bottom line is that birds do flock together, and you cannot have it both ways. More importantly, it truly shows the universe the truth behind your actions. For example, if you want to stop drinking and go with your friends to bars constantly, then you obviously want to keep what was causing you harm close to you. This is the epitome of self-sabotage.

5. Rediscovering Your Authentic Self:

Breaking free from the chains of negative influence allows us to rediscover our authentic selves, if we indeed have the stomach for it. We shed the layers of conformity and people-pleasing, embracing our true desires and passions. This journey of self-discovery is liberating, empowering us to pursue our dreams without the weight of toxic friendships holding us back. Part of living authentically is having the guts to be honest about your needs and desires, but if you don't protect them at all costs, then what is the point of making this sacrifice? Anyone worth having in your life will honor, respect, and hopefully learn from your example.

So as I reiterate that toxic friendships have no place in our lives, breaking up with friends who don't support our positive changes may be painful, but it's a necessary step towards personal growth and self-preservation. We deserve friends who cheer us on, inspire us, and celebrate our success. Embrace the void left behind, for it paves the way for new connections that align with how we are choosing to write this new chapter. It's time to reclaim our authenticity and surround ourselves with a tribe that uplifts us on our journey of positive change and celebrates our success, no matter whether it is intentional, accidental, or divine.