Haters: Ruin or Revelation

In a world where negativity and criticism seem to thrive, it's easy to feel disheartened when encountering haters. I have struggled for years trying to develop a shield (or more like an energetic bubble wrap) to protect myself because I have never been able to just not react; whether verbally or internally. Now with the world being so public and under the illusion that everyone is entitled to just say whatever the hell they want to; I found it especially important (as an upcoming author) to really figure out a way around this, but then I realized that I will never be able to just ignore lies or unfounded criticism. It is absolutely not in my nature so it was imperative to find a solution. I have seen many people stronger than I cower to the criticism of the social media monster. These word-vomiting skeptics also hurt our feelings and make us question ourselves which is why there is a literal bumper sticker declaring that MEAN PEOPLE SUCK. However, it's time to shift our perspective and recognize that these naysayers can actually be a valuable asset to our personal and emotional growth. Rather than dismissing them, let's explore the reasons why haters can serve as guiding lights towards self-improvement and success.

1. They challenge us to question ourselves:

Haters often provide us with an opportunity for introspection. When faced with criticism, we are encouraged to evaluate our beliefs, actions, and decisions. By considering their perspective, we can better understand our own values and motivations. This self-reflection allows us to refine our thoughts and approach, ultimately leading to personal growth. Any opportunity to evolve should be explored, no matter how ugly the presentation.. With that said, sometimes it also leads to the moment when you know in your soul that you are absolutely OK and that the hateful opinions of others are completely idiotic and unworthy of your time or energy! (Read that last line again)

2. They fuel our determination:

Haters can ignite a fire within us, motivating us to prove them wrong. Their doubts and negative comments can serve as the driving force behind our determination to succeed. By channeling their negative energy into positive action, we can push ourselves beyond our limits and achieve the unthinkable. I mean, come on. I don't need to over explain this one. When mean, critical soul crushing criticism and gas lighting has occurred (oops, that was about me) when you free yourself and start doing you, there is no greater motivator than your success bitch slapping your previous oppressors... Sorry not sorry.

3. They help us embrace our true selves:

In the face of criticism, we are forced to confront our insecurities and vulnerabilities head-on. Haters challenge us to develop a stronger sense of self and embrace our unique qualities. By staying true to who we are, we can build resilience and self-confidence, ultimately becoming more comfortable in our own skin. Authenticity is bad-ass. Period. It does however require a lot of guts, creative maneuvering and walking through fire. Do not wait nor look for other peoples support or opinions in this because this time it?s all on you baby? So get your motivation where you can because the freedom and self respect on the other side is incredibly worth it!

4. They encourage us to improve:

Constructive criticism, even if it comes from a hater, can be an invaluable source of improvement. By carefully analyzing their feedback, we can identify areas of weakness and work towards self-improvement. Embracing the lessons hidden within their negativity allows us to evolve and reach our full potential. It also is a fine motivator. Think about it... You don't honestly seek approval from the people who love you. They will always, automatically revel in your success. Haters, your ex, the bullies from work or school that made you to fearful to chase your dreams or speak your truth... Them. Those are the people you want to choke on you8r success. It's OK. You will be told it has no value if you don't do it for yourself and that quite frankly is complete bullshit. Do it. Put amazing shit out there for the Universe to (in its perfect timing) put it in front of the person who needs to see it. Why is none of your business.

5. They teach us empathy:

Dealing with haters presents an opportunity to cultivate empathy and understanding. By considering their motives and perspective, we can develop compassion and learn to respond with kindness. Understanding that their negativity may stem from their own struggles helps us realize that everyone is fighting their own battles. This empathy not only benefits us personally but also enhances our relationships with others. It also helps us detach from the ugliness and helps us step back and understand it's a them problem which is both empathetic and self-preservation.

6. They build resilience:

Haters toughen us up emotionally, fortifying our resilience. The ability to endure criticism and negativity without being demoralized is a valuable skill in an increasingly challenging world. Overcoming their negativity allows us to become mentally stronger, better equipped to handle setbacks and obstacles, and ultimately grow into our best selves. Believe me, you may wake up one morning and your entire life has changed and they only way to bounce back from tragedy no matter how great or how small is to be resilient!

So, while it may seem counter-intuitive, haters can be seen as our greatest assets on the journey of personal growth and our quest for a purposeful and authentic life. Their criticism challenges us to question ourselves, fuels our determination, helps us embrace our true selves, encourages improvement, teaches empathy, and builds resilience. By re framing our perception and recognizing the hidden opportunities within negativity, we can transform the hate into a catalyst for our own evolution. Moreover, the mere fact that you are producing content that evokes emotion deserves a huge pat on the back! Even haters do not waste their energy, expressing opinions (no matter how empty or unnecessary) about things that they don't feel passionate about. So congratulations because every reaction that you initiate is another testament to the fact that you are able to produce art, content, or just simple words that draw out an emotional response. People don't have to agree with your truth. You are not entitled to complete acceptance from everyone. Period. Get over it. Something else to keep in consideration is that when we put ourselves out there in the line of fire, it reminds others that we have the courage to do what most people are afraid of. Summed up, the majority of humans you encounter put the majority of their energy in to avoiding criticism or discomfort and seeking satisfaction of their desires without effort or repercussion. In other words, we as a species are obnoxiously vain and lazy, so the mere fact that you have the courage (or even audacity) to do what they fear most will warrant push back in their opinion. So, let's embrace the haters and use their negativity as a stepping stone towards becoming the best and most bad-ass version of ourselves.